Beverley Pomeroy
What suffering is…

David Brooks of the New York Times has written a wonderful Op-Ed titled “What Suffering Does”.  It is being shared widely through Social Media with a nod from those who appreciate the experience of suffering and the lessons it can embody.

What suffering does, Mr Brooks suggests, is that people are “clearly ennobled by it” and that the “response to this sort of pain…is holiness”.

Roshi Joan Halifax discusses suffering in length in her book Being with Dying.  Roshi Joan looks at suffering as a lotus flower; "the roots of pure white lotus are buried deep in the pond’s dark mud.  But it’s that very mud that nurtures and feeds the lotus, making it possible for the flower to open in splendor to the sun."

"The lotus flower is really our awakened mind, nourished by suffering."

For those of us ‘living grief’ we don’t have an opportunity to work through our suffering, to walk out the other end.  We are ‘living grief’ day in day out, suffering becomes ceremonial and an almost reverent experience.  Which is why it appears like a holy response.

At some point in living grief you cede, abdicate to divinity, if you want to call it that, or to God’s will, to a greater power.  Or maybe you abnegate conventional medicine.  The relinquish of outcomes bears vulnerability and provides us the appurtenance of being present, the ‘awakened mind' as Roshi Joan calls it.

I don’t know if my daughter is going to live another thirteen years or die tomorrow.  I sit up each and every night, on the side of my bed, looking down at her as her body decides to stop breathing.  It has become isochronous.

To practice living grief day in day out, is nourished suffering.  And beyond the holy response, and for whatever objective suffering’s purpose is, we do dig deeper and deeper within ourselves; we become the curator of our own resilience.

What suffering does, what suffering is affords us an experience that makes us human, that sheds our walls and can free us, if we let it, from the confines of a world that is more about acquisition than altruism.

I wiggle my toes in the ‘pond’s dark mud’ each and every day and I can’t help but believe that my daughter is that beautiful lotus flower that finds joy in the simplicity of the sun, and shines her suffering on all those who cross her path.

Canuck Place Teen Camp…Building Belonging

"We find delight in the beauty and happiness of children that makes the heart to big for the body". Ralph Waldo Emerson

This past weekend we had the opportunity to attend a Teen Camp through Canuck Place Children’s Hospice at Camp Squamish Easter Seals.  Sophia turned thirteen this year so it was our first camp.

Sophia’s care is incredibly complex.  Just to go out for dinner is a process of packing meds, having enough needles, ensuring we have a full tank of oxygen, wheelchair, etc.  Now imagine that ten fold trying to get Sophia to camp!

But we did it…and I dropped Sophia off on Wednesday for what would be the experience of a lifetime.  The teens stay from Wednesday to Friday without parents under the care of Canuck Place staff, nurses, volunteers and peer counselors.  It is a unique combination of medical, psychological and physical care that not too many organizations can pull off.

Canuck Place children and their families are unique.  I say that, however, I am not sure many people know just how unique or are comfortable with why we are unique.  All of our children have complex, life threatening diseases and the reality is, we don’t know moment from moment how long our children will live or how quickly their disease process will impact their systems robbing them of simple every day functions like walking, talking, eating and in some cases, breathing.

Going to camp gives the teens in particular an opportunity to be with each other and to create friendships in an open, inclusive environment supported physically by the medical team and supported emotionally by the counseling staff and each other.

By the time the parents arrived on Friday for our own weekend retreat, the teens had bonded and there was a swell of energy, laughter, comradery and mischief.  

I could write a lot about our experience as the emotions are still so fresh in my mind and heart.  But what comes to mind is from His Holiness the Dalai Lama.  The Dalai Lama talks about how we can find happiness and create community through three senses; a sense of care, a sense of concern and a sense of belonging.

For families like mine and for children like Sophia, experiencing all three of those senses is rare in any one place.  We have an exhausted medical system which parles into exhausted health care professionals.  We have communities starved for resources and anemic to respond to even the simplest of needs.  And we have parents / family care givers traversing a myriad of obstacles while in the midst of their own emotional journey of living grief.

Initially I was apprehensive to attend camp.  I brought my teen son along, admittedly for my own selfish fear of being alone, but also so he could be with other siblings and perhaps, in his own way, discover his own community of support through his journey of being a sibling of a sick sister.

With the majority of the teens attending having Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy I wasn’t really sure what, if anything, I would have in common with the other parents.

Well, after attending a few group sessions, eating all our meals together and staying up until 2:30am talking together in the lodge, it became apparent we have A LOT in common.  And it provided a freedom that I feel most of us rarely attain in our home communities.

Back to the Dalai Lama…the staff who put on this incredible camp, Susan and Camara, Gillian, Amy and Laura, Jenn, just by developing the camp itself show a sense of concern for our group of lost souls and have given us a venue and developed processes for connecting in a deep and meaningful way.

The staff and volunteers who come and take time out of their life to spend five to six days sleeping on uncomfortable mats and being ‘on’ for twenty four seven deeply care for our children and the siblings and parents who share their space so intimately.

My experience and the experience I know both my children had…resulted in a powerful sense of belonging.  We are a part of Canuck Place which already provides so much for us, but attending this camp provided something so much deeper, so much more meaningful from the intimate sharing circles, to the rhythm of our camp fire drum circle, to the laughter of paint ball, the squeals of delight cannon balling into the pool, even the tears of departure.

Canuck Place Teen Camp provided us with the very things the Dalai Lama indicates we need in order to have a happy, connected fulfilling life…a sense of care, a sense of concern and for sure, we found a sense of belonging.

This is the only way I know how to acknowledge the gift we received this past week…and to encourage those who can, to donate or volunteer, or subscribe to what I believe to be one of the most important resources we have in our province for families who have children with life threatening or life limiting illness.

Canuck Place Children’s Hospice…

ps: Sophia is going to sleep for a week now! :)

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"We find delight in the beauty and happiness of children that makes the heart to big for the body". Ralph Waldo Emerson

Celebrating Living Grief

Many people who experience living grief fall into the crevice of dichotomy around the holidays.  On one hand, we are grateful for another memory making tradition, for one more elated Christmas morning, one more opportunity to kiss and hug at the stroke of midnight, one more wish upon the midnight stars for a year filled with health and happiness.  We are filled with hope.

And on the other end of the barrel we are filled with melancholy for what could be all the ‘lasts’ and run around in a furor trying to gather and experience as much as we can in reverence of that which may be our last and final memory of the one we love.

The last few weeks have been difficult.  Those who know me well are probably rolling their eyes right now and nodding in agreement. It really is hard to explain what it is like living grief amongst the celebrating.  

I would wonder around the shopping centres and see people laughing or stressed out about finding gifts for their loved ones.  People hackling over fresh or frozen turkeys, greeting friends with hugs and how you doings.  It would evoke deep feelings of sadness from the pit my belly that without warning would erupt into a quiet sob and I would find my cheeks damp with tears.

I would sit in my car or drive around the back farm roads trying to deplete my body of tears, trying to cry out the living grief my heart is constantly bounded by.

At some point in time, I would wonder home and bring myself to step back into the celebration almost to the extreme in order to drown out the sorrow burrowed into my soul.

I would get up early on a Saturday morning and crawled up on a tall ladder to put up the Christmas lights all by myself.  I would scour the shops like everyone else looking for that special something that Sophia could open up with elation on Christmas morning.  I would pour myself into making a delicious turkey dinner for friends and family, taking it on myself as a symbol of that which I could do…can do, would do, needed to do as distraction.

But eventually, with all the celebrating done, with family gone home, friends tucked back into their own abodes reality eventually seeps back into our existence.

And this is where learning living grief is so important.  Living grief doesn’t ebb from one moment to the next, it doesn’t go away, there is no ‘getting through’ living grief or ‘getting over’ living grief.  It is living grief, the profound journey of ongoing loss.

It didn’t go unnoticed that all Sophia ate at Christmas dinner was mashed potatoes and soft cooked carrots with gravy because that is all she can chew and swallow now.  That she slept until 10:00am versus bounding out of bed at the crack of dawn on Christmas morning.  That there are more medications to administer throughout the day and night than last year.

It is a profound journey of ongoing loss and it doesn’t simply stop because the rest of the world is celebrating and it certainly doesn’t change at the stroke of midnight.

Christmas is traditionally about celebrating the divine, a night of miracles and the birth of a saviour.  New Year’s is about letting go of the past and welcoming the new, with fresh renewed energy.

I believe living grief necessitates believing in the divine or a higher power and rather than letting go of the past, we learn to shift into our new normal and at some point in our day within our journey we find the strength to breath new life into our step, and like everyone else…leap into 2014.

I don’t know what this year will bring and I try to not think about that.  What I do know is I will ride the energy of those around me and allow myself to be swept into 2014 with renewed energy and yes, even hope.

We are the curator of our own resilience and bringing in the new year is just another example of how we can do that even living grief.

The “value of deceleration and immersive attention”

So, admittedly, I am a nerd.  Anyone who has seen my desk knows I am a technology whore.  I love new innovative systems from Prezi to my Business Manager app to 99 Designs, blue tooth speakers, you name it.

All of these systems and programs allow us to create and communicate our work faster, more efficient, with flashy presentations and flare.  The last thirty years has seen technology advance at an accelerated rate unprecedented by any other time in history.

I am a product of what I call the ‘Miami Vice’ generation where we were taught that bigger, brighter, faster was better.  And, like many, fell into that trap on a variety of levels both personally and professionally.

Then life happened…as it does, slamming me into a concrete wall of reality.  And bigger, brighter, faster suddenly became heavier, vital, exhausting.

Unconsciously being forced to stop, to decelerate in my life and immerse myself in the world which I live and love, left me scared, anxious and full of foreboding.  

I was forced to slow down, to breathe and immerse myself within.

I woke up today to a shared article The Power of Patience “teaching students the value of deceleration and immersive attention' by Jennifer L Roberts, an art history professor.  I won't get into the entire article, you can read the full article on Harvard Magazine.

What struck me was that while we are developing new technologies and systems to increase the speed in which we work and play and communicate it creates a strong resistance to slowing down, to being purposefully contemplative.  We are being propelled to act, think, answer, react, share, engage, buy, sell, build NOW.

Professor Roberts instructs her students to sit for three hours and look at a piece of art they have chosen to write a comprehensive report on.  The time is purposefully excessive as is the forced environment for which they must sit and contemplate; a museum, an art gallery.

A year ago even thinking about sitting in front of a piece of art or sculpture for any length of time would have made me twitch!

However, a year and a half later, I relish the opportunity to sit and slowly experience the people and things around me.  I had the opportunity this year to work on an organic farm.  And while it was hard work, physically demanding ten hour days working in the hot sun or freezing rain, it forces one to decelerate even if you have production demands.  

Farming, by its very nature, is a process…takes time.  And despite our advances in growing, in accelerating the process, to seed, propigate, grow and harvest real organic food, you have to work with nature.  Nature is remarkably decelerated and pays attention to detail.

I would start my morning as the sun popped up on the horizon standing in rows of kale; curly green or dark purple beside the colourful chard. My job was to harvest anywhere between 75 to 100 bunches.  It would take a few hours.  And in those few hours of methodically cutting leaves and securing them in bunches I could feel my body and mind slow down, and breathe.  I would feel the wet dew on my finger tips, hear the birds rustling in the rows next to me, feel the heat of the sun pierce the morning cool and begin to hit my skin.

I would look over and a few acres away would be a co-worker on their knees picking salad greens, another methodically harvesting parsley, all contemplative in their own world, immersed in their own thoughts.

As time went on, I would know which rows I harvested, which plants had the best quality and yield.  I began to notice how the kale grew in contrast to the sun or rain, or how the caterpillars would only digest the largest, oldest leaves.  Even the chard began to have details I never noticed and I began to harvest in a way that nurtured re growth.

Professor Roberts concludes that “patience itself is a skill” and that we must start teaching "the deliberate engagement of delay" or for many of us, learning it ourselves. She states that the…"very fabric of human understanding was woven to some extent out of delay, belatedness, waiting".

And this is my favorite part of the article:

"Where patience once indicated a lack of control, now it is a form of control over the tempo of contemporary life that otherwise controls us. Patience no longer connotes disempowerment—perhaps now patience is power." 

As we continue to utilize technologies, systems and processes in the new millenium, we need to incorporate the practice of deceleration, or this ‘immersive attention’.  It could be as Professor Roberts instructs, sitting for three hours in front of a piece of art.  Or it could be sitting on a grassy hill somewhere in your neighbourhood watching the leaves fall, maybe listening to the waves hit the shore, taking up a meditative practice, yoga.

One thing I have learned, and am continuing to learn, and I applaud Professor Roberts for stepping out of the norm and pushing this realization to the forefront of learning, is we do need to stop…and not simply smell the roses, but look at the soft flesh of it’s pedals, how the arch of its stem follows the sun, how the stigmas draw in the morning dew and the filament can hold a bumblebee.

What will you do today…to pause and take in the wonder and beauty around you?

Chapter One - Living Grief: The Profound Experience of Ongoing Loss

Just on the other side of 18 years old I began working for what was then Metropolitan Labs as a laboratory assistant. My role was in the patient service centers in community and I would go to group homes, long term care facilities, private hospitals, hospices and individual homes to do blood draws or sample pick ups. I had spent almost 15 years working in the health care sector.

My boss happened to be Dr Don Rix and he was well known for his strength in community-focused care.  It rubbed off on those of us who were fortunate enough to have worked with him.

Here I was on the giving end of health care, community care for over a dozen years. I could never have anticipated how that role would soon reverse and I could never have anticipated coining Living Grief; the profound experience of ongoing loss.

I had just turned 30 and was having my third child.  I had two boys and was fingers crossed hoping for a girl.  On August 3rd 2000 Sophia was born. Within a few short hours, I was sitting in the back of an ambulance staring at my precious little girl with the fragility of life hanging in the air.

It became very clear very quickly that Sophia had a complex health issue.  We were marshaled into NICU, neonatal ICU and I found my place amongst the isolates and incubators and perched myself next to Sophia’s.

On day three, I managed to get home at midnight to shower and get some rest and see the boys before I headed back to the hospital to be with Sophia.  Before dawn the phone rang and one of the nurses, Jomarie, whom I had met a day earlier, quietly asked me to come back to the hospital right away.

Jomarie’s voice was soft and gentle but I recognized the urgency in her words; “Sophia is having some issues, we have had to ‘bag her’ over night several times and I think it would be good for you to come in”.  I read between the lines despite not knowing exactly what ‘bag’ meant.  I hung up the phone and sat on the side of the bed and my body for the first time since Sophia was born wept uncontrollably.

When a parent of a child with a life limiting illness uses the word ‘pain’ to describe how they feel, it literally is pain.  My chest hurt, I ached for the little girl struggling forty minutes away, my stomach was in knots; I hadn’t eaten since she was born.  I looked down through my fingers that covered my face and saw my legs swollen from standing postnatal, next to Sophia’s isolette for the last 72 hours.

Sophia lay in an isolette alone and I now sit here on the edge of my bed feeling utterly, desperately alone, isolated.  It was my first experience understanding grief.  When you grieve you are alone, isolated within your own self, your own pain, your own heart, mind.  No one else, even if they are going or have gone through their own grief, can feel what you feel.  It is one of the most personal and alone experiences to endure. Looking back this was probably one of the first moments that I thought my daughter was going to die. I was experiencing anticipatory grief.

Back at the hospital, scrubbing for the mandatory times two, two minutes at the sinks felt like the longest four minutes of my life.  I could see the top of Sophia’s isolette from where I was standing.  I quickly dried my hands, gowned up and went to her side.  The ‘bag’ that I have now become accustomed to seeing, was a little tiny mask attached to a tube that was then attached to, literally, a bag.  It is used when someone stops breathing and mimics your lungs.  My only experience of it prior was seeing it on a television show like ER. 

It is a life saving device…and it sat looming just above Sophia’s head in her isolette poised, ready.

I looked at Jomarie and Jomarie’s eyes were just watering up as she saw mine, and I looked over towards Sophia and it was a horrific sight. She was looking blue, she wasn’t moving, her arms were limp; you could see her respirations. You could see every time she took a breath her lungs would suck into her chest and it wasn’t a good sight. 

The doctors came by and didn’t know what was going on.  They sent her for CT scans and they still had no idea. 

It was one of those moments that could have gone either way. 

I was not an overly emotional person and always kept my emotions in check and have always been very reserved about my feelings and what’s really going on inside of me. Even from a physical standpoint. I certainly was never very demonstrative.  I always had an area around me that was my space and visibly never let people get into that space. But at that moment when Jomarie put her arm around me, that was the changing point for me and I just broke down and cried right there in the special care nursery.  Normally, I would be so worried about what people were thinking but in this moment I didn’t really care.

The hardest thing that day was not being able to hold my child in my arms.  Because of the risk to her life, her fragility, Jomarie had to tell me I couldn’t remove her from the isolate and could only touch her through the armholes.  Here I was a mother, thinking I was going to loose my child and I couldn’t hold her, pick her up.

Jomarie stepped aside to let me reach in through the armholes to stroke Sophia’s back.  She whispered in my ear that if I were to place my hands on Sophia’s head and bum, it would mimic her being in my womb and be a sense of comfort to her.  I placed my left hand on Sophia head, feeling her soft dark curls wet from perspiration beading on her forehead as she struggled to breathe on her own, and then placed my other hand on Sophia’s bum, wrapping her entirely in my hands. 

I closed my eyes, took deep breaths and just tried to sense my daughter.  I rested my head on the warm clear plastic of the isolette and tried to project warm, living energy to move between the palms of my hands through Sophia.

I think I stayed until about one o’clock in the morning.  Sixteen hours I sat there on a stool with my hands through the little holes and just touched my baby.  I had one hand on her head and one hand on her bum and I just sat there and stroked her for hours and hours.  Even when they closed down the nursery for shift change, I did not leave. I stayed the entire time. I didn’t want her to die alone.

Living Grief: The Profound Experience of Ongoing Loss

Every August I write a blog, a post, share one of the most intimate and vulnerable moments of my life; the story of my daughter, Sophia, who was born with a rare genetic abnormality that has encompassed all her major organs and systems.  For the past thirteen years I have never been able to put a name to it.  

Some would call it ‘anticipatory grief’, some ‘bereavement’.  Lately, there has been a trend to use the label ‘post traumatic stress disorder’.  Now while I believe in all these terms for various stages in one’s life, or experience, I have been struggling with finding a term that clearly identifies the emotions and experience of a parent when their child is diagnosed with a progressive chronic medical condition or illness.

When my father passed away two and a half years ago, I experienced true grief and bereavement.  While he was palliative the last week, I experienced anticipatory grief.

Having a child born with a life limiting illness and having just passed a thirteen year milestone, I feel none of those terms really identifies our journey.

Once I pulled myself out from the covers after my father died, I began to think deeply about my experiences with Sophia and some of the parallels.  My father passing unwittingly threw me into a place of deep thought and deep contemplation, emotion.

Since Sophia has been born I have been experiencing grief, however, not in the traditional sense.  After my father died I began to coin a phrase to better identify how I was feeling; Living Grief.  

Living Grief is the profound experience of ongoing loss.  And when I think of the past thirteen years with Sophia, the phrase allows me to share with clarity, my experience, our experience.

Consider this the beginning of a series of blog posts, and my story of Living Grief: The Profound Experience of Ongoing Loss and the opportunity we have had to really explore compassion.

Social Innovation: The New Panacea?

This past weekend on the Backyard Philanthropist our theme was Social Innovation.  It is a term that has been tossed around both in the non profit world and the business sector for quite some time.  The use of the term and the movement is growing and Canada is definitely becoming a leader.

The term social innovation simply put means new ideas, concepts for social issues.  So it could be a new way to educate youth, it would be an idea for urban farming, it could be a concept for provision of health care.  The important component of social innovation is that it isn’t necessarily brand ‘new’.  The strength of social innovation lies in its aggregate approach to solving issues or barriers in civil society.

It is a multi disciplinary approach that involves partnerships and collaboration between multiple sectors; in particular a cross over of the non profit and for profit, government sectors.

We were thrilled to have Bruce Dewar, the CEO of Lift Partners on our two segments with Gordon Hogg, who is considered the grandfather of Social Innovation here in BC.  Gordon also happens to be the MLA for White Rock - South Surrey and is the Parliamentary Secretary for Non Profit Partnerships.

Both Bruce and Gordon spoke to ‘patient capital’ which refers to an 'investor who is willing to make a financial investment with no expectation of turning a quick return.

In social innovation this is a really important component.  We all know and recognize that in order to solve some of societies ‘wicked problems’ we need long term investment.  And that includes financial.

Lift Philanthropy is one of the partners in BC Ideas; 'a community of action, designed to identify, convene and invest in some of BC's best social innovations.'

BC Ideas recently announced it’s winners and along with financial supporters like Lift, $270,000 was given to social innovations and innovators across the province.

One of the recipients is the 60 Minute Kids Club.  Co founder Curtis Christopherson, owner of Innovative Fitness, is passionate about getting kids moving.  I had no idea that only 12% of children and youth in Canada get the recommended 60 minutes of daily physical activity.  60MKC goes into schools across Canada, motives and educates both parents and children about the health benefits of physical activity then provides them access to an online platform.  Online kids can track their physical activity, their healthy eating and earn rewards for being most active in their class, in their school, even the most active school in the province.

We were really impressed with Curtis and knowing that 12% stat, advocate every school in the country to get involved.

We also had Leona Gatsby in the studio with us from Decoda Literacy Solutions.  Decoda was a funder of BC Ideas and gave out four $5,000 awards to organizations that were advocating and supporting literacy in the province.  One thing I learned from Leona is that literacy is not just about reading.  Literacy also involves comprehension, and the utilization of language.  And we learned that many people in our province struggle with reading, and learning due to poverty, lack of resources in their communities.

Our shows theme resonates on so many levels.  We know we need to make changes to our social services in our province.  It can be overwhelming, especially for those ‘wicked problems’ as Gordon calls them; homelessness, poverty, mental illness.

We need innovative people creating collaborative new ideas for the public good.  The secret according to Gordon and Bruce, is the closer the solution is to the grassroots the more successful.  And I have to say, all the recipients of BC Ideas fulfill that model.

I would also argue that there are many many people in our communities who are social innovators and may not even realize.  BC Ideas, though the official contest is closed, is still open for those who want to share their own social innovation, maybe find support from business professionals or other like mined organizations and individuals.  BC Ideas online platform will remain open as a vehicle for your social innovation.

We encourage you to check out the organizations mentioned, go listen to the Backyard Philanthropist and learn how you can include your own ideas into community development.  It can benefit us all…

Maybe social innovation is the new panacea?

Journey to health, inside and out…

I have been fortunate, lately, to be surrounded by healthy people…both in an emotional sense and a physical sense.

This past weekend we were lucky to air a show we taped with Peter Van Stolk, the CEO of SPUD and Dr. Michael Murray, one of the world’s leading authorities on natural medicine.  What a pleasure speaking to both of these men.  They are well versed and well lived in the world of organic food and it’s health benefits.

Peter uses a phrase we have begun to adapt in our own home 'food is the new pharmacy' and it is a phrase Dr. Murray has been advocating for over 30 years through his books, his speaking and his teachings.

When you ‘need’ to create a healthier lifestyle, for whatever reason, it can be extremely overwhelming.  As many of you know, it is something I have been delving into for the past year.  There is a lot of information out there, A LOT.  And depending on the celebrity endorsement, many of it can be misleading if not completely off base.

This week’s Backyard Philanthropy show in particular discussed the discovery of natural foods; go to your farmers market, meet the farmers who are growing beets, strawberries, carrots.  Or perhaps, discover the world of free run, non medicated chickens.  Or it could be a soap, a piece of clothing.

We are fortunately here in the lower mainland to have access to a lot of farmers markets.  In Ladner, we have what I believe, is one of the best Sunday markets.  Unfortunately, it only runs from June to September.  So during the week and during the winter months, I use SPUD and have been a client on and off since 1987!

Having just completed my Isagenix 30 Day Cleanse, I am now moving into discovering how I can keep my body healthy, make it even stronger, more resistant to disease and stress (something I have plenty of).  After 30 days, I lost 15 lbs, and a total of 29 inches off my body combined.  On top of that, I feel good and have a lot more energy.

I will still be maintaining my Isagenix program as I value the program and actually really like the French Vanilla shakes.  As a non breakfast eater with my hectic lifestyle, it is one of the best lifestyle changes I have made.

On the show, we asked Dr. Murray about juicing, a ‘fad’ that I thought was, well, a fad.  Turns out juicing is actually incredibly beneficial to us.  It helps us with what I learned regarding ‘free radicals’, increases our absorption of antioxidants, flavins.  All of this aides us in reducing the risk of heart disease, developing diabetes, and prevention of many other diseases associated with aging, weight gain, menopause, exposure to unhealthy lifestyles.

So this week, I will be getting a slow juicer from SPUD and have signed on to participate in their new 'juicing box' program.  Bare in mind, I have never juiced in my entire life and my only experience was when my older sister went through a phase of drinking carrot juice and turned orange!

Dr. Murray did say…’better red than dead’.  So maybe my skin will get a lovely red hue from juicing beets out of my Organic Autumn Harvest Juicing Box!!

Stay tuned for what’s next…and how my juicing experience is going!  I have become a big fan of Dr. Murray and he challenges anyone to come up with a juice he hasn’t created yet!  I take him up on that challenge!

In the meantime, especially during the holiday season, I will forge ahead into creating that optimal lifestyle of health and well being.  I start drop in badminton tonight…wish me luck, it’s been 25 years since I played!

I’ve failed…

And I will fail again.

I opened up a blog this morning from Seth Godin on how ‘non-profits have a charter to be innovators’.  Seth explains that non-profits don’t fail enough.  That they play it safe, they provide ‘effective aid’ or a ‘palliative’ solution.

Seth articulated something that anyone working in the non-profit sector knows and understands, that there is a bigger issue we need to solve.  Take homelessness as an example.  We have plenty of organizations, too many if we were to be honest, handing out blankets, creating shelters, developing programs to feed, clothe, aid the homeless. 

Now let’s try and count the organizations coming up with innovative solutions or doing innovative discovery as to the root cause of homelessness and being innovative in its eradication; umm yea, not too many.  A complex issue, I get that as it requires collaboration with multiple sectors and has a myriad of barriers.

Seth talks to the organizations themselves.  I challenge that it is about the actual people in the non-profit sector.  My being one of them.

I went into business to solve a problem.  It was a big problem, not only to solve but to go into business specifically to solve a non-profit problem.  I was met with so much adversity, naysayers, skeptics.  I was met by industries that do not embrace change.  And for all my success in the process, I still failed…

And I will fail again. 

Does that make me a bad person, someone who doesn’t understand the sector?  No.  It definitely has it’s learning.  And boy, have I learned a lot…about myself, about my sector, about the people around me both pro and con.

And I will fail again, and again, and again.  And that makes me, and others just like me, great innovators.

As someone who is entrenched in the non-profit world, both as a supporter and a receiver of those ‘palliative’ services we have come to rely on, I look forward to meeting others who have failed…because those are the individuals who ultimately, will solve our communities most devastating social issues.

Heading out to buy a t shirt that has “I failed” written across the chest…